Why I don’t pay for sex…….

Posted: February 3, 2014 in Uncategorized
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As a man, there are certain questions that you will be asked. Who is your favorite sports team? What historical person would you like to have a steak with? And have you ever paid for it? Now, the first time I was asked that question, I was hanging with the guys over some cheap beer talking about girls. When the question was posed, everyone had different answers, but when it was my turn, I simply said no. It was a no brainer.

 When I think about sex, I like to look at it being a voluntary act. Two people getting together because they dig each other, like each other, or love each other. But for me, it has never been about me paying her. One of the reasons I have not been with a prostitute is because I never thought the women enjoyed it. I mean think about it: No woman wakes up and says, “Yeah! I can’t wait to turn some tricks and give some blow jobs to pay these bills!” I want the woman to be with me because she wants to, not because of how much I am paying her. Plus, who wants to be the fifth person she has been with that day? I have always thought of prostitutes and sex workers being emotionally damaged people that need help, and me being a patron, I would only be hurting them even more.  And of course, the risks of contracting diseases goes without saying. But with all that being said, some men still don’t see it that way.

 In every man’s life, the game gets slow. There is a lull in dates. You can’t get a girl’s number. Your charm falls flat. Your presence does not light up the room. Women don’t check for you like you used to. In other words, you are invisible. So you start to doubt yourself, wonder what went wrong. You need something to get you back on, a slump buster. Now some guys will troll the clubs like a catfish, scraping at the bottom, trying to get anything that they can possibly take home, or they hire a working girl. Not too long ago, I was having this discussion with a friend, trying to talk him out of paying for sex. I would say, “Dude, we are way too fly for that to be buying it.” But he would try and counter with “Dude, your gonna end up paying for it anyway with dinner, drinks, and presents, so why not just cut to the chase and pay her?” But it is different. I feel that when a guy get into the habit of paying for sex, it can do something to you. A voice in the back of your mind says you can’t get any better than a prostitute. You can only have sex if you are paying someone for it. It starts to fuck with your mind. Your self esteem lowers. You can end up being a trick.

 Years back, I moved to San Diego for school. And like anyone under 21 looking to party and drink, I made a trip to Tijuana. Being in TJ was unlike anything I had seen at that time. Culture, excitement, energy was abound and I found myself walking around taking everything in. Well, in my ignorance of TJ, I walked to “The Stroll” or where all the prostitutes were. It must have been a block and a half long of women just standing around waiting for a customer. Now that didn’t phase me, because when I lived in Kansas City, I knew where the sex workers hung out. What I seen next, nothing could prepare me. While walking “The Stroll,” an old station wagon filled with a family pulled up for less than a minute. A young girl dressed in a Catholic school uniform who had to be no more than 14, got out and started walking toward the sex workers and my mouth just dropped. I couldn’t believe it and still don’t believe it. A girl barely old enough to be in high-school was working the streets. There are some things in life you will never forget, and for me that was one of them.

 When I think about why I don’t pay for sex, I can list all of these reasons and many more. But for me, every time I see a prostitute walk the streets, set up in a whore-house, or see an ad online, I think about that little girl. How every woman at one point in their life was that little girl. And if I did, I couldn’t live with myself.


Favorite sports team is The San Francisco 49ers and favorite historical person is Malcolm X.

  1. Dani Greer says:

    Wow, Powerful. And hooray for you, LeRon. Do you have opinions about sex in literature? It’s a topic at http://bloodredpencil.blogspot.com this month and I have no male input. Do you want to be a guest? Let’s inbox at FB. ~ Dani

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